She was one week late. She peed on the test. She showed it to me shortly thereafter. We were going to be parents. Shit.
Shock wasn’t even the first emotion that hit me, it was denial. I knew what the test said and I knew that she was pregnant, but maybe somehow she wasn’t. I wasn’t going to end up being a Dad. She wasn’t going to be a Mom. That’s just crazy talk!
It was July 21st at 8:00am that my wife and I found out we were going to be parents. We were not trying to have children. In fact, we had been discussing the matter and were both in mutual agreement to wait at least another 5 years before even trying. We were not emotionally or financially ready for such an endeavor. But as you find out in life, rarely do things go according to plan.
Who am I?
I’m not sure how personal I want this to end up being, but I’ll share a few details. My name is Todd. My wife is Lisa. We live in the good ole USA. We are both 26 years old and have been married for 3 years. Today is actually our anniversary… happy anniversary, Babe! Before getting married we were together for 6 years. Yes, we are high school sweet hearts. We don’t have the perfect relationship (who does) but we make an effort to grow together, fill each other’s love tanks, and communicate everything. We make a pretty good couple.
What’s the point of this blog?
At this point in time, I’m not sure. It’s conception (pun maybe intended) is largely due to me wanting to vent. I need to get all of this out and organized. As of now, my wife is about 10 weeks along and we both are still taken aback by the whole thing. We both have accepted it has happened and are now trying to move forward with the change, as best as we can. So yeah, I guess this is just another step towards moving forward.
But going beyond just what this will do for me, I want to share this experience as it unfolds so one day it could potentially help someone else. Perhaps you are reading this now and just found out you have an unplanned child on the way. Maybe you’re even like us and don’t have health insurance. Possibly me documenting this journey can help you out. I sure hope so.
The biggest concern we have right now can be summed up into one word, debt. As this blog progresses I will be going into more detail about all of this, but to sum it up in one sentence, this is our current situation: We don’t make enough to afford health insurance yet make too much to qualify for any kind of state aide. So that’s not fun.
What will I blog about?
Anything I feel like. But the main point is going to be explaining the costs associated with having a child without health insurance or government aide of any kind. I plan on blogging about how my wife or I is feeling, documenting all of our appointments, providing financial statements from the hospital, and anything else related to the pregnancy, our relationship, or lives in general as long as it doesn’t end up intruding our privacy.
So, yeah, there it is. We found out we are having a baby and we don’t have health insurance. Here’s to adding a second mortgage!